My mum (who has Alzheimer’s but is still fairly independent) and sister have a tricky relationship and my sister visits mum once or twice a week but doesn’t do much of the caring work I do for mum. I do need to keep my sister on side and hate to confront her as she’s quite likely to go off in a huff and say ‘if that’s how you feel, I will stop visiting altogether!” HOWEVER since restaurants reopened on 17 May (less than one month!), my mother has paid a total of £620 on lunches and dinners with my sister!! Mum’s on a pension of about £24k per year so she’s quite nicely off but £620 (£80 to £120 a time) is obscene in my opinion. I know the amounts she has spent, and where, as I have POA set up on mum’s bank account and can see it all going out. Mum usually has a very hazy or non existent memory of the lunches. I am SO furious with my sister but should I just leave it alone? I think she is taking the mickey in order to drink a bottle of wine at lunchtime at mum’s expense! But should I just let it happen, it’s not MY money and I need my sister to be around for mum and I am afraid of the reaction if I confront her. Is this upset and anger the price I have to pay for my mum to have my sister’s company? By the way my sister knows I know what’s happening in mum’s bank account. She just doesn’t seem to care.