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Is it unreasonable...


Registered User
Nov 23, 2011
Auckland, New Zealand
to expect at least one of my stepchildren (all upwards of 40) to tell me my OH had been missing for a while on Saturday? I was on the last day of my 4 away, got home about 3, so it obviously was not long before. He was fine when I got home and I only heard about it from step-granddaughter yesterday. I can't understand why they didn't, surely they would want to be if it were them?!

Just need some reassurance here, I guess.

Grannie G

Volunteer Moderator
Apr 3, 2006
It sounds quite considerate to me Carol, if I read it correctly.

You couldn`t do anything while you were away and they allowed you to settle in at home before breaking the news.


Registered User
Jul 21, 2015
I agree with the others. I assume your granddaughter just told you in passing and maybe it would have been better coming as a considered conversation with one of his children,if they were going to tell you.. But they maybe thought it best you didn't know. There was nothing you could have done and all was well. Don't let it stop you going away again. Great that they will take responsibility to allow you the break


Registered User
Dec 8, 2011
North West
I can see where you're coming from Carol but also that the situation can be interpreted differently. I think I would want to be told as soon as I returned, and not in such a casual way. Maybe they found it difficult to tell you because they felt a degree of guilt?