Can I ask for some guidance. My Mum was diagnosed with vascular dementia in January but it has been a very rapid progression. She has carers 4 times a day now but can still be extremely lucid at times. There is enormous confusion as she can’t accept that her house is her home and has been returned to it numerous times by neighbours when she is leaving to ‘go home’ with a bag packed. There have been two police incidents last week, once where she phoned 999 to tell them I’d locked her in (I hadn’t) and once where she was out at 4 in the morning, just standing in her garden (I think. Social Work have offered emergency respite care with a view to long term but I’ve refused that as I don’t want her just shoved in any available care home. I’ve been looking and have found a nice one which will have availability in a few weeks, problem is I don’t know if I’m jumping the gun and acting too soon. I live 6 miles away and have no other relations, I work full time and go to see her every day which is all taking it’s toll on me. The guilt and uncertainty I feel about this is crippling me.