My 81 year old mum has Parkinson’s and dementia plus she’s incontinent and she can’t walk. She has to be hoisted out of bed, washed on the commode, and transferred to her chair for the day. She can just about pull herself up using the Sara Steddy with someone there in order to transfer to the wheelchair or chair. She struggles to eat in that her hands aren’t too steady and swallowing is hard so she has to have soft food only and drinks in a sippy cup as she spills things often. She broke her ankle doing next to nothing 18 months ago and broke her hip falling over a year ago. My dad is 72 and looks after her. They have carers in 3 times a day as she isn’t supposed to be moved by only 1 person. Dad has the patience of a saint and loves her dearly. We think he’s struggling both mentally and physically. He takes her for walks in the wheelchair every day which she hates. She doesn’t actually want to do anything except eat and sleep. She knows who we all are and is sometimes able to talk to us when she’s awake but often rambles nonsense. She’s had several UTIs and a couple of months ago had to go into hospital as her blood pressure sank through the floor and she had to have several transfusions. We think she would be better off in a home as her needs are just so great that it’s too hard on dad to do it all. His quality of life is terrible and he has dreams of travelling and visiting all of us. He says they aren’t ready for a home. He feels too guilty I think. With this situation, does anyone agree that it’s too much? Is a nursing home the answer?