My mum has is 67 and was diagnosed with alzheimers 3 years ago . She is at a stage now where she is still independent but needs someone with her at all times maybe be left for 1 hour or 2 at the most.
Anyway to cut a long story short there is me and my sister we both have young family our youngest are 5 . We both work she works part time during the day I work 20 hours a week evenings.
In june my dad has signed up to go on an outing for 4 nights to benidorm with the men from the local pub . I completely understand that he is entitled to a break he finds it difficult how much my mum has deteriorated. But I'm also really angry that we are expected to look after mum around the clock between us while still being at work (neither of us have holidays left ) looking after our children , doing the school runs etc. It is also the week of my middle child doing her gcses so the added stress isn't what I need.
It's not that we dont want to help but mum is at the stage where dad is her whole world if he nips out she is constantly asking where he is and how long it will be before he is back . My sister has offered for mum to stay with her overnight but when it comes to it we know mum wont stay there she is comfortable in her own environment. It's out of the question us staying there with work and child commitments . Am I being selfish to even think like this ? It would be different if it was over a weekend but it's not it a monday to friday . When first the rest of us life goes on as normal with work school etc . We cant tell him not to go because it will cause an argument . Thoughts please ?
Anyway to cut a long story short there is me and my sister we both have young family our youngest are 5 . We both work she works part time during the day I work 20 hours a week evenings.
In june my dad has signed up to go on an outing for 4 nights to benidorm with the men from the local pub . I completely understand that he is entitled to a break he finds it difficult how much my mum has deteriorated. But I'm also really angry that we are expected to look after mum around the clock between us while still being at work (neither of us have holidays left ) looking after our children , doing the school runs etc. It is also the week of my middle child doing her gcses so the added stress isn't what I need.
It's not that we dont want to help but mum is at the stage where dad is her whole world if he nips out she is constantly asking where he is and how long it will be before he is back . My sister has offered for mum to stay with her overnight but when it comes to it we know mum wont stay there she is comfortable in her own environment. It's out of the question us staying there with work and child commitments . Am I being selfish to even think like this ? It would be different if it was over a weekend but it's not it a monday to friday . When first the rest of us life goes on as normal with work school etc . We cant tell him not to go because it will cause an argument . Thoughts please ?
