Hi I'm new here.
My Mum has dementia (not yet receiving treatment - due to see consultant early June). She has extremely poor short term memory and has great difficulty 'problem solving'. She does however seem to be dealing with it fairly well - but I'm struggling.
Where I should be the caring considerate daughter, I find myself getting annoyed that she can't remember - what's the point in saying 'you just said that Mum!' when she repeats herself - she doesn't know, but I can't seem to help it. I'm finding it difficult to come to terms with and can't find a positive way to deal with it.
I can't even make proper conversation with her a lot of the time because she can't remember what she's just said, but rather than trying harder, I avoid it.
I am so angry with Myself when I haven't been patient - but I suppose I just want my old Mum back. I know this clearly won't help Mum, and I need to find ways of accepting things as they are and preparing Myself for when things get worse. I want to make her happy. Anyone got any advice on coping mechanisms?
Thanks
T
My Mum has dementia (not yet receiving treatment - due to see consultant early June). She has extremely poor short term memory and has great difficulty 'problem solving'. She does however seem to be dealing with it fairly well - but I'm struggling.
Where I should be the caring considerate daughter, I find myself getting annoyed that she can't remember - what's the point in saying 'you just said that Mum!' when she repeats herself - she doesn't know, but I can't seem to help it. I'm finding it difficult to come to terms with and can't find a positive way to deal with it.
I can't even make proper conversation with her a lot of the time because she can't remember what she's just said, but rather than trying harder, I avoid it.
I am so angry with Myself when I haven't been patient - but I suppose I just want my old Mum back. I know this clearly won't help Mum, and I need to find ways of accepting things as they are and preparing Myself for when things get worse. I want to make her happy. Anyone got any advice on coping mechanisms?
Thanks
T