I am currently off work due to stress some of which is due to work related stuff. However, part of my problem is due to the issues we as a family are struggling with. My Dad has mixed dementia and while he looks quite well, he is slowly slipping into his own little world. Mom is is full time carer but she too is struggling with a physical health problem. She refuses help most of the time but we have managed to persuade her to have a carer in for a couple of hours a week, not much I know but that's all she will accept. I am taking them both away for a long weekend next month so Mom can relax while me and my husband can help look after Dad. There is no way she will go anywhere without him so they come as a package which is fine by me. When we are home, we will hand Dad back to Mom and then she has the worry back 24/7. A bit like handing a child back to its parents. MOf course we continue to visit and support them but for Mom it's back to reality. My poor Mom has lost 3 of her family (2 brothers and a sister in law) in the last year and cannot grieve with my Dad because he just does not realise they are dead. All of this is so upsetting and I feel as though I have already lost Dad to this vile condition. Is it normal to feel like this? I love my Dad and feel guilty just having these thoughts.