hi, I'm new here but have been learning from all your posts on the forum.
my sisters and I have been moving in with mum for a few weeks at a time to look after her for the past 3 years. She walks and talks but cannot do anything for herself (although she thinks she is totally fine). I feel like a puppet master as I talk her through most actions like dressing her, helping her sit down, the stair lift is a brand new experience every day, etc etc. I'm sure you know what I mean.
2 years ago I took her to the memory clinic for assessment. I think it was a new doctor as he had few people skills. He had a huge form in front of him and after about 7 questions, she got everyone wrong. I could see her getting very agitated but was holding herself together. I asked him if there was much more as she was struggling and hadn't got any questions right, he said yes. I said again mum was upset and he asked me if we should stop. I suggested he ask her and she said it was making her feel stupid. End of appointment. She shouted at me all the way home and was argumentative for days after. Last heat we were invited back. I rang to see what would happen and was told she would need to go through the form. I spoke to the doctor and he reviewed her file and decided she didn't have dementia!
We manage ok. We have private carers overnight and a couple of afternoons as she cannot be left unsupervised.she does not like strangers and is not a group joiner. The GP can't help with medication or services as we'd have to go through the memory clinic. I'm curious, Would having a diagnosis make any difference?
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my sisters and I have been moving in with mum for a few weeks at a time to look after her for the past 3 years. She walks and talks but cannot do anything for herself (although she thinks she is totally fine). I feel like a puppet master as I talk her through most actions like dressing her, helping her sit down, the stair lift is a brand new experience every day, etc etc. I'm sure you know what I mean.
2 years ago I took her to the memory clinic for assessment. I think it was a new doctor as he had few people skills. He had a huge form in front of him and after about 7 questions, she got everyone wrong. I could see her getting very agitated but was holding herself together. I asked him if there was much more as she was struggling and hadn't got any questions right, he said yes. I said again mum was upset and he asked me if we should stop. I suggested he ask her and she said it was making her feel stupid. End of appointment. She shouted at me all the way home and was argumentative for days after. Last heat we were invited back. I rang to see what would happen and was told she would need to go through the form. I spoke to the doctor and he reviewed her file and decided she didn't have dementia!
We manage ok. We have private carers overnight and a couple of afternoons as she cannot be left unsupervised.she does not like strangers and is not a group joiner. The GP can't help with medication or services as we'd have to go through the memory clinic. I'm curious, Would having a diagnosis make any difference?
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