I really need some advice for my daughter who is a carer for my mum who is 89 and has dementia! My mum has never been the easiest of people to get on with, and now looking back over the years feels she has probably always been Mentally ill? She has just become even more nasty and is saying some really really nasty things to my daughter like "your my carer u get paid to do blah blah blah" , lies so much and we cannot believe that she is being so awful, accuses my daughter of stealing everything from money to goods and creams from her room, says myself and daughter are nasty people and that I stick up for my daughter 100% and there's no way I should be agreeing with her, it feels like everyday is a massive argument, she won't let us clean up in her room (and it's disgusting) won't let us change bedding which is not clean, hasn't had a wash or bath for over a year, won't take any of the medication that doctors have given her and refuses that she has dementia saying "aparantely I have dementia, but I dnt know when it's coming?", We have had to phone police and ambulance as my daughter phones me up in such a state she has panic attacks, and this has happened on a couple of occasions, I am so worried she is going to do something to herself or have a nervous breakdown? Social services are involved and have tried to get her into day centres etc but she won't go, they say she is not mentally incapable she knows what she is doing and can make her own decisions, we see her everyday and know she cannot she is beyond confused with her banks cards and finances it's terrible. The mental health team say the same as when they come and see her she is a different person to who we see!! We feel she should be sectioned for her own safety as she also has spent all her savings and doesn't know what on,? and in the space of a month! We are both a reck and feel that it's us that's is mentally ill sometimes, she's so out of touch with reality, has delusions is paranoid and we have arguments about things she says have happened when they havent! It's feels like the authorities are not listening and honestly my daughter is going to get ill! I just dnt know how to proceed with this? Any advice is much appreciated Thankyou.