Dear friends of talking point: How are you all? Well from my side today we had a horrendous day with my mother in law that suffers dementia. We had arguments there was shouting and even pushing her away because she was very aggressive. The urging was about something very unimportant like doing the washing up with dirty water. She could no see wrongdoing and I lost my temper as you do when you feel tired and worn after such exhausting job of looking after her. Now I feel guilty because I know that this type of arguments does not help her or me. She did not choose to get dementia I understand and, the family cope quite ok so far. However, as the illness progress her temper and behaviour is deteriorating. We don know how to avoid these arguments? How to release the anger and frustration we feel inside with out getting down to this level of disrespect? Please if any of you have, any advise in the matter I love to hear it. Thank you very much for sharing your experiences and for your understanding.