Just wondered if anyone ever had any success with turning round an invisible siblings attitude?
I have three - one is great but 200 miles away. The other two are conspicuous by their absence. I've tried talking to them and explaining that I could use some help but other than the odd phone call nothing seems to be forthcoming. We have a private Facebook group where I often post so they can see what is going on with mum - appointments, her behaviour etc (like when she managed to open the washing machine mid cycle and flood the kitchen!) to try and help them see just how much I am doing for mum these days (I live with her).
A few months ago I had a bit of a crisis where I told them last minute that I had to get away for a few days and they did cope with her in my absence and even talked about covering for me every few months. That talk seems to have faded away now and the only thing my brother has managed to do in the last six weeks is buy a replacement cat flap that is too big for the hole in the door (see my other thread!) and advised me to borrow a jigsaw to fit it. As if I don't have enough to do! Grrrr!
I'm feeling really annoyed with them but just can't seem to come up with a strategy to make them see that I need some help from them. It doesn't help that my brother can be really aggressive and nasty when confronted.
Am I bashing my head against a brick wall here expecting them to do anything? Or should I just get on with it without them and let the resentment go - because at the moment the resentment is making me more unhappy than dealing with my mum!
I have three - one is great but 200 miles away. The other two are conspicuous by their absence. I've tried talking to them and explaining that I could use some help but other than the odd phone call nothing seems to be forthcoming. We have a private Facebook group where I often post so they can see what is going on with mum - appointments, her behaviour etc (like when she managed to open the washing machine mid cycle and flood the kitchen!) to try and help them see just how much I am doing for mum these days (I live with her).
A few months ago I had a bit of a crisis where I told them last minute that I had to get away for a few days and they did cope with her in my absence and even talked about covering for me every few months. That talk seems to have faded away now and the only thing my brother has managed to do in the last six weeks is buy a replacement cat flap that is too big for the hole in the door (see my other thread!) and advised me to borrow a jigsaw to fit it. As if I don't have enough to do! Grrrr!
I'm feeling really annoyed with them but just can't seem to come up with a strategy to make them see that I need some help from them. It doesn't help that my brother can be really aggressive and nasty when confronted.
Am I bashing my head against a brick wall here expecting them to do anything? Or should I just get on with it without them and let the resentment go - because at the moment the resentment is making me more unhappy than dealing with my mum!