Hi everyone I feel a little awkward asking this question but I really need help. My husband has dementia and , like others I've been reading about, is in total denial. I can understand this and go along with his determination to speak only of a "memory problem". However I am his sole carer and as I am now 71 and suffer from a detached tendon in my upper arm which has greatly affected my physical strength, I have tried many times to ask him to apply for Carer's allowance which would enable us financially to employ help with some housekeeping. Ha absolutely refuses to sign the form for this and becomes enraged when I mention it. He has also refused to set up a Power of Attorney. My name is not included in our properties and I have no access to his old age pension. Forgive me if any of this seems callous but I don't know how to overcome this situation. I am told he MUST sign the form in oorder to claim any benefits. can anyone suggest a solution? I am quite sure, after 50 years of marriage, that he is a narcissist but that isn't relative.