Hi all, Because of my mother's background and lack of a decent grasp of English, I am currently utilising a care agency which provides a carer who, fortunately, speaks one of mum's languages. This is so far working reasonably well. Today I was due to be taking mum for a day to the nice home I have identified (they also offer day care), but sadly she refused to go and to be honest after a rather wearing evening yesterday, I felt too grotty myself to get up early enough to take her. I don't think the day care is going to work (though there are carers there who speak her language too!). I'm now wondering if I might be lucky enough to find someone in the local area who speaks mum's first language, who might be able to help us on an informal basis. By informal, I mean on an ad hoc basis, without me formally employing them. Has anyone ventured down this route? Would I be daft to even consider it? The problem I have is that the language is key - it makes such a difference as mum is at least able to converse properly with the carer. Finding a care agency who have employee's with mum's first language is hard, but I'm pretty sure there are people living in this area who would be only too happy to be paid to sit with her, but who are not officially 'carers'. I was really hoping day care would be a 'mid way house' for me between me looking after her at home, and the future point at which I will have to seriously consider full time care. I guess I can still try to persevere with the day care, but it's going to be hard to get her there. Really frustrating, as this would have really helped give me some decent, weekly respite. There's nothing easy about this at all, whichever way I turn!