Dads become increasingly incontinent since nov wetting himself i bought tena pads and tena mens pull up never used them till this week as knew id have a royal battle on my hands and was dreading it he’s extremely private but so confused and true to form he wont barely wear them he very confused about dressing anyway so its all a nightmare takes a hour of shouting snatching clothes off me wearing 2 pairs of trousers getting stuff back to front etc etc till he finally dressed thats without trying to make him understand the way and reason why he needs pads .The pads aren’t staying in place in hes boxer shorts if I actually manage to stick them on n get them on then the pull ups he look at them and said everybody will be laughing at me I sympathise and get what hes saying not very glamorous n do look like a nappy it’s heartbreaking actually but what's the alternative im dreading the summer ive been on loads of websites buying pants with built in pads but had to send them back as pads loose or too big etc .the tena pads are loose too and im expecting them to fall out of the trousers ??at some point on top of that now have to replace dads trousers as hes not able to do up trousers ie zips belt button and put on lockdown weight in addition to tucking all hes jumpers in to trousers adding to the bulk so replacing them will cost £100s its a complete nightmare .any advice on the incontinent issue