We all do..I have been my dads carer for over 3years and have done the personal care bit etc.But things change.I made the choice to be his carer for a while ....he is not my husband.....I know my limits and I will make the choice to not do some things.
I understand others have different views and different relationships. But for me I have my limits.
I will no longer be my dads main carer as a lot of the time I feel suffocated and stressed.
I have decided to hand responsibility back to the state .GP and SS and dad himself as apparently he has”capacity “ He has carers 4X a day anyway.
I think everybody has to recognise their limits.I need to “save” myself before I become ill..