I visited my mum yesterday - she has Vascular Dementia and has been in a care home for a year. When I was catching up with the Deputy Manager, she mentioned that my mother is now incontinent at night - using her armchair as a loo. I don't know why, but I felt really shocked and upset about this and felt mortified on her behalf. I guess it's another indication that she is getting worse. Up until now she has been quite steady. Is nocturnal incontinence a deterioration in someone with Vascular Dementia and Alzheimer's? I think I already know the answer, but would be interested to hear other people's experiences. Also, this may be an impossible question with a more impossible answer, but is there any research into average life expectancy once someone enters a nursing home? I don't know if there is correlation between shorter life expectancy for someone in a care home as opposed to being cared for in their own home. I guess I'm trying to look into the future and predict how long my mother will live. I read somewhere it was around 4.5 years post diagnosis.