My Mother in law lives with us, she is 91 and has early stage dementia. I am really struggling at the moment because mum has started to pee every morning on her way to the loo. This journey takes her through one corridor, through the carpeted living room across the hallway and into the loo, weeing all the way! Not just drops but puddles. I have tried talking to her about it (casually saying that it happens to all ladies as they get older, and it’s nothing to be ashamed of, she just needs to wear a pad at bedtime) but she gets really distressed and storms off to bed for the rest of the day. She says she won't drink anymore and it won't happen. We pointed out that it doesn't work and that she has tried that before. I put a pad on top of her night dress each night to try and remind her, I have left notes on the bed and on the wall by her bed, and she screws them up and throws them in the bin. She refuses to wear a pad. Sometimes she screams at us "why are you accusing me of doing that?" "I don't wet myself" and so on. We have had to remove the carpet from the corridor, and are about to remove her bedroom carpet too as the smell is appalling. Each morning I have to disinfect the loo and then mop all the floors (some times more than once a day). I have reached my limit!!!! I also care for my severely disabled son at home, and though I have good days when I can just accept that this is how things are for us at the moment, some days I just want to scream. I think I have tried to think of all possible solutions, but if any of you have any ideas, I would be very grateful.