I have now got my OH to wear incontinence pants but I have a real battle getting him to change them. He gets very annoyed if I keep on to him but the odour is not good He is on Donepezil tablets which make his wee very strong-I can smell it but he will insist he has just put clean pants on-he will not have a shower but does wash his 'bits' so thank goodness he is not a smelly person in that way. Washing his hair is a nono- & shaving well a beard is now growing - an electric razor is not being used now. he sleeps a lot but I do get him out to the shops every day as it then means he has a walk but it is not an enjoyable excursion as he gets very annoyed. every Tues & Fri I get him to a pub where they sing Karaoke in the evenings which is great & some evenings he sings all the words - great as the people there remember him when his voice was rich & strong. I worry as he drinks very little liquid but half a cup of hot chocolate seems to go down well & as for eating little portions of cassarole with all the veg & meat cut up small seem to work - even though it is not cold yet I have started to make liquidised soups & they go down well== the real trouble is with the incontinence pants & the odour. Perhaps I am going about it the wrong way -too confrontational perhaps, but just get so annoyed. That is the only thing I get really put out about perhaps someone has some ideas how i should go about it all.