Hello again
Advice sought yet again !
Mum has been urine incontinent since she was in the local community hospital around 3 years ago - (we were told they were only allowed to the toilet every 3 hours as the nurses were too busy to take them !!) Don't think the start of incontinence was a coincidence - perhaps the AD brain just accepted that this was OK ?
We've been managing this via pads, kylie sheets etc and apart from the huge amount of overnight washing - as no pad in the world can cope with a ten minute sit on the side of the bed in the morning when its soaking already - we've managed to cope.
Anyway - to stop the rambling - Mum recently started to try to delay little outings to the shops etc by needing to spend around 30 minutes in the loo before we went. Fine - we could cope with this - but last Sunday my sister went to take her out and she totally refused and then announced she needed to go to the loo (as usual) but spent so long prevaricating despite major urging that she filled her pants !!
This has never ever happened before and of course it was awful for my sister.
We're not sure how to cope with this - Mum does get in a real temper sometimes with us and my sister said it seemed almost deliberate - with an attitude of - you can't make me do anything and if you try "I'll teach you".
Does anyone think this deliberate action is possible in middle stage AD or is it just another extreme stress reaction ? Mum didn't seem to care about the mess and simply got very defensive - I didn't do that etc
Its very very difficult to know how to cope now - we are very very fortunate in that Mum is in assisted living and is an angel for the carers but an absolute devil with her family - and the bigger worry is that if she starts to become doubly incontinent then the place she is living may have to ask us to move her into a full blown home.
Whew - what a rant - but its amazing how, for me, getting it all down in black and white does seem to help a little.
regards to all
thanks in advance
Advice sought yet again !
Mum has been urine incontinent since she was in the local community hospital around 3 years ago - (we were told they were only allowed to the toilet every 3 hours as the nurses were too busy to take them !!) Don't think the start of incontinence was a coincidence - perhaps the AD brain just accepted that this was OK ?
We've been managing this via pads, kylie sheets etc and apart from the huge amount of overnight washing - as no pad in the world can cope with a ten minute sit on the side of the bed in the morning when its soaking already - we've managed to cope.
Anyway - to stop the rambling - Mum recently started to try to delay little outings to the shops etc by needing to spend around 30 minutes in the loo before we went. Fine - we could cope with this - but last Sunday my sister went to take her out and she totally refused and then announced she needed to go to the loo (as usual) but spent so long prevaricating despite major urging that she filled her pants !!
This has never ever happened before and of course it was awful for my sister.
We're not sure how to cope with this - Mum does get in a real temper sometimes with us and my sister said it seemed almost deliberate - with an attitude of - you can't make me do anything and if you try "I'll teach you".
Does anyone think this deliberate action is possible in middle stage AD or is it just another extreme stress reaction ? Mum didn't seem to care about the mess and simply got very defensive - I didn't do that etc
Its very very difficult to know how to cope now - we are very very fortunate in that Mum is in assisted living and is an angel for the carers but an absolute devil with her family - and the bigger worry is that if she starts to become doubly incontinent then the place she is living may have to ask us to move her into a full blown home.
Whew - what a rant - but its amazing how, for me, getting it all down in black and white does seem to help a little.
regards to all
thanks in advance