Incontinence and personal hygiene

Discussion in 'I care for a person with dementia' started by Linbrusco, Sep 10, 2015.

  1. Linbrusco

    Linbrusco Registered User

    Mar 4, 2013
    1,585
    Female
    Auckland...... New Zealand
    Mum with moderate AD is becoming slightly incontinent.
    In Mums case she waits too long to go to the loo.
    I recently bought her Tena liners. She won't use them. She says they stick to her and they are too long :rolleyes: so she is going through several pairs of undies a day. ( any suggestions)

    Mum does have a bath every day, sometimes two if she has forgotten she has had one, but I do wonder if she even uses soap half the time.
    Hair washing can be a problem, and I have to remind her, but do take her to the hairdressers once a month, so at least she gets a good hairwash.
    Personal toiletries and perfumes have gone by the way side.

    Mum has psoriasis, and suffers occasionally from tinea between her toes.
    She has an ointment for each which I have written on each box... For Elbows & Knees, For toes etc

    Mum and Dad live in their own house behind ours and I go over every night to oversee Mums medication. She had had a bath, and had put the ointment for her toes on her elbows and knees and vice versa.
    This isn't the first time she has put the wrong ointment in the wrong place, and I have had to hide the Vicks and Deep Heat :D

    I suppose none of this in the scheme of things is really important ( bar the incontinence) but boy its getting hard, having to think one step ahead. I feel like I'm having to micro manage everything, and people tell me I fuss too much. But who else would be Mums ears and eyes?
     
  2. Beate

    Beate Registered User

    May 21, 2014
    11,743
    Female
    London
    You're looking after someone else. You want to get it right. Of course you don't fuss too much. Every aspect of OH's care is now overseen by me. Medication, incontinence care, showering, shaving, ointments for dry skin, check ears, eyes, nose, fingernails, toenails, teeth, intimate parts... The list is so extensive that sometimes I forget something and he goes to bed with dirty fingernails. Not the end of the world I know, but who but me would do it? If I miss something, it goes undetected and he'd walk around with glasses he can't see through or his keys lodged inside his slippers (don't ask). It's a huge responsibility. Sometimes I forget to brush my own teeth but not usually his!
     
  3. Chrismitch

    Chrismitch Registered User

    Jun 23, 2011
    127
    Tell her there's only one pair of clean undies left and unless she wants to go without any (!) she should wear the liners that day ... And the next. Just a suggestion. Very difficult.
    If you help to bath her once a week and wash her thoroughly then it doesn't matter what she does the other days. I think you'll have to apply the creams. You will need to do more and more as time passes.
     
  4. Bod

    Bod Registered User

    Aug 30, 2013
    1,182
    Change from knickers + pads, to pull-ups, remove all pairs of knickers so there's no going back.
    Can be pulled down, and up as required, but there when needed!

    Bod
     
  5. cragmaid

    cragmaid Registered User

    Oct 18, 2010
    7,942
    North East England
    Not being funny...but is she putting the pads into her panties the right way round? It might help to pre-load her briefs for a week or so, ie put the pads in and then pop them back in the drawer so she doesn't have to prepare them herself.
    Failing that...get Tena Type pants.
     

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