Hi How do other people deal with incontenance. My mom has Alzheimer's and I have this week had to throw out three pairs of pants due to soiling. She goes made if I mention personal care as she does not think she has a problem. She uses Tena pads in the day and night-time pads as night. I have been looking after her fulltime since she broke her hip in December and everything has gone well. But this is one area I have a real problem with. She can go to the toilet herself, but sometimes, I don't know how, she will come out with some staining on her clothes. if I mention it to her, we end up arguing which I know is due to fright and embrassment. Any advice on how to approach this in a better way would be much appreciated. She does know when she wants to go to the toilet.