Hi exhausted2015. What a difficult day for you , my heart goes out to you. I can truly empathise with you as you struggle with your emotions over what's best for your precious dad . What is best for him is having a healthy and happy daughter and if this disease had not robbed him of his rational thinking then he would ask you to put yourself first . We all try to do our best to look after our parents , spouses etc but sometimes we can't . I for one realised that nearly 2 years ago when I was going through a very bad time trying to look after my mum . I still have dark days but things have improved , however I do know if things had continued to get worse then I would have asked that my mum be looked after by caring , professional people who make up a team looking after people with dementia . Please note I said team because there comes a time when a team is needed , one or two people working in isolation can't do it . I hope I don't get to that stage but I hope I recognise it , if and when it happens . Please don't be hard on yourself , you have done such a wonderful 'job' of looking after your dad and you can still do that by making sure he gets the best care possible . I'm sending you a massive hug. Lou xx