ten months ago mum was going to the shops, hairdresser and doctors by herself, showering and bathing was a definite no no to the point she was smelling,no problems with toileting, and doing her own online banking and finances using house phone and mobile, mum was nasty verbally and always enjoyed a good family row ( normally she was the one causing the rows ) but now she walks around house with a walker, couldn’t do any banking now, forgotten how to use phones, can not walk any further than the garden gate even that is getting to much now, the last few months has not said a bad word to anyone ( I am always waiting for that though lol ) toileting has become a night mare ( cleaning carpets at ten last night, mum can put a muck spreader to shame...sigh.....) and for the first time I managed to shower mum myself this morning I didn’t give her a choice but all I said was mum after last night you must have a shower I then walked off to bathroom and put shower on when I turned round there she was starkers omg my eyes were burning lol but it was all over and done with so quick we both got over the embarrassment quickly .Unfortunatly she still will not talk to my other half but we have made ourselves a tiny sitting room so we can relax in there on an evening I just pop into sitting room to give mum a cup of tea but I think mum enjoys being on her own now and again. Is it supposed to get easier? I just hope it’s not the calm befor the storm.