Hello
My Aunty who is 87 has been having problems for a few years., memory, repeating etc. She has gradually gone downhill. She stopped getting dressed last November after going out with a friend and not being able walk around the supermarket due to bad feet (arthritis and hammer toe.). A neighbour used to help her with household tasks, gardening etc. The lady came to me one day and said she couldn’t do it any more as it was too much for her. We had a meeting with myself and my brother. We are my Auntys only relatives and mentioned about what her neighbour had said. She flew into a rage and went outside shouting at her. The lady wont have anything to do with her now.
I got in touch with adult help as I was worried about her. A social worker visited her and she promised that she would accept help etc. She had a memory assessment in March but the follow up was cancelled due to Covid. She is a very stubborn lady even before dementia. She does not wash, hardly eats, drinks 3 bottles of country cream weekly., so bad I know but I just think oh well at least it’s got milk/ cream in.
She says she is fine and likes sitting in her dressing gown as it’s warmer. . I have tried to help with getting her carers on two separate occasions which she just turns away, meals on wheels turned away. She won’t accept anything I have helped her with. I get shopping for her weekly, she tells everyone else it comes in a big box To the house. I visited her yesterday and she has lost the keys to her patio door, I spent the whole time searching for the keys. I am so worried about her and know that we are basically waiting for a disaster to happen. She has plenty of money to afford help etc. She will say don’t you go putting me in a home I will kill myself. Myself and my brother do have power of atttorney. Please can anyone advise me or help. Thank you.
My Aunty who is 87 has been having problems for a few years., memory, repeating etc. She has gradually gone downhill. She stopped getting dressed last November after going out with a friend and not being able walk around the supermarket due to bad feet (arthritis and hammer toe.). A neighbour used to help her with household tasks, gardening etc. The lady came to me one day and said she couldn’t do it any more as it was too much for her. We had a meeting with myself and my brother. We are my Auntys only relatives and mentioned about what her neighbour had said. She flew into a rage and went outside shouting at her. The lady wont have anything to do with her now.
I got in touch with adult help as I was worried about her. A social worker visited her and she promised that she would accept help etc. She had a memory assessment in March but the follow up was cancelled due to Covid. She is a very stubborn lady even before dementia. She does not wash, hardly eats, drinks 3 bottles of country cream weekly., so bad I know but I just think oh well at least it’s got milk/ cream in.
She says she is fine and likes sitting in her dressing gown as it’s warmer. . I have tried to help with getting her carers on two separate occasions which she just turns away, meals on wheels turned away. She won’t accept anything I have helped her with. I get shopping for her weekly, she tells everyone else it comes in a big box To the house. I visited her yesterday and she has lost the keys to her patio door, I spent the whole time searching for the keys. I am so worried about her and know that we are basically waiting for a disaster to happen. She has plenty of money to afford help etc. She will say don’t you go putting me in a home I will kill myself. Myself and my brother do have power of atttorney. Please can anyone advise me or help. Thank you.