Hi All, I'm new to this Forum and have from reading some of the threads on this site, have already been comforted by the terrific support and advice that members have been offering each other. Mum was diagnoised with vascular dementia last year, further to a previous diagnosis of atrial fibrilation shortly after our Dad died. She is increasingly poorly, both from a physical and mental health point of view as the dementia starts to take rapid hold. She has lost her apetite and eats almost nothing, is increasingly unable to handle money (we do have EPA and I help her with money issues as much as possible) and constantly forgets to take the medication in her blister pack. Now here's the issue - she is in total denial about her "memory problems" and therefore simply refuses any help from outside sources. Meals on wheels, social care, help with shopping, you name it. She was taken into hospital on Christmas Eve, and came out on Christmas Day - this was as a result of untreated angina, another sign of her increasingly self-neglect. As you can imagine, she was upset by this and agreed to someone (medical) visting once a week. I arranged this for her yesterday and organised a CPN to visit tomorrow (with me). Upon telling her this yesterday I got shouted and screamed at as she had forgotten that she'd agreed to this and is horrified at the idea of "strangers" in her home. I'll report back later on what happens! Anyone else had this situation and how did you manage when your Mum/Dad simply refused help? BTW - I am one of four grown-up children but it seems to be me who carries the can. My health is suffering as I work full-time and despite asking my siblings to share (at more than one family meeting), nothing changes.