thanks for all the advice have been for a meeting today with the hospital social services they have told me that mum cannot return to her own home as she is at risk from another fall and here you go! 'this is a list of care homes in your area - can you go this weekend and sort one out as she needs to be discharged) as mum owns her house she will be self funding so its up to me to find her a place to go and sell her house to pay her fees they also said to me that mum is stage 3 ?? so not all care homes will accept her. I was in such a state when I got home that I had to take to drink (2 glasses of wine) Is this what normaly happens I would have thought that there would be more support available than "sort it soon" after all if I dont and they say mum is not safe to go home what happens?