Dear friends, Forgive me if this is a subject unsuitable for discussion but it is causing me anxiety and I would be so grateful for some words of wisdom. I have cared for my father who suffered from dementia, then my mother with Alzheimers Disease and also my husband until he entered a nursing home in December, so have considerable experience as a carer. Married 44 years, in a loving, caring & sharing relationship my husband is now having to come to terms with the fact that he has inoperable cancer, advanced AD, will never come home again and has a limited life span. He is 72 and I am an energetic and lively 62. Despite his severe limitations in every respect, he still has sexual urges and seeks gratification, although is totally unable to perform. Despite my love for him, I am totally unable to meet this need for practical reasons and because his double incontinence and lack of any physical co-ordination would make it a wholly unpleasant and unsatisfactory experience.
Can anyone please help me to help him to come to terms with the situation or even suggest gentle ways of lessening his urges.
Can anyone please help me to help him to come to terms with the situation or even suggest gentle ways of lessening his urges.