Dear friends, Forgive me if this is a subject unsuitable for discussion but it is causing me anxiety and I would be so grateful for some words of wisdom. I have cared for my father who suffered from dementia, then my mother with Alzheimers Disease and also my husband until he entered a nursing home in December, so have considerable experience as a carer. Married 44 years, in a loving, caring & sharing relationship my husband is now having to come to terms with the fact that he has inoperable cancer, advanced AD, will never come home again and has a limited life span. He is 72 and I am an energetic and lively 62. Despite his severe limitations in every respect, he still has sexual urges and seeks gratification, although is totally unable to perform. Despite my love for him, I am totally unable to meet this need for practical reasons and because his double incontinence and lack of any physical co-ordination would make it a wholly unpleasant and unsatisfactory experience. Can anyone please help me to help him to come to terms with the situation or even suggest gentle ways of lessening his urges.