Hello
I'm new to this site and reading a few posts has already helped enormously. But my partner's mum is beginning to cause us real concern. She's 78 and has become increasingly forgetful, very easily distracted, and doesn't seem to be able to process things that have been said or reason something through. She has what I would call irrational anxieties about things, no amount of reasoning or reassurance helps it's like it just doesn't go in. Conversations have no real focus and she repeats herself often, or goes off onto another subject and you have to remind her what you had asked her. She has had several falls recently too, the most recent being today when she decided to go out to her local football club to ask about her season ticket as she was worried they would sell it to someone else, despite being told by two family members that she didn't need to go there, they wouldn't do this, etc. Now she's fallen down some steps and is at a and e by herself and this wouldn't have happened if she'd not gone. The falls clinic were supposed to come and see her but some admin error meant they didn't then they discharged her, she phoned her doctor who said he'd look into it, we kept reminding her to chase it up and each time we got "oh, it's ok, the doctor is sorting that out". She's had some appointments about her kidneys but we have no idea what is wrong as she's never able to explain it. She has diabetes and I worry that she doesn't eat properly and only snacks on things that "the doctor said I can have these". I worry that she'll get told something important health related but forget or not tell us or tell it wrong. She sold her car last year because driving had become very stressful but won't get a taxi when we tell her she struggles on the bus instead. She took £6000 in cash out of the bank in error instead of £600 (she won't use cards or cash machines) and brother in law had to take her to the bank to pay it back in. She was given some information about MCI last year but she never read it! I looked at it and said oh, there's lots of tips in here on how you can maintain your memory, her response was "they'll look after me", like it's totally up to someone else. I've ranted, sorry! I think I need to ask - what do we do now? Both her sons work away during the week so if something happened to here they'd be miles away and unable to help. Should we try and get to the doctor's with her? I know if you try and talk to her she just doesn't retain it. Thanks for listening.
I'm new to this site and reading a few posts has already helped enormously. But my partner's mum is beginning to cause us real concern. She's 78 and has become increasingly forgetful, very easily distracted, and doesn't seem to be able to process things that have been said or reason something through. She has what I would call irrational anxieties about things, no amount of reasoning or reassurance helps it's like it just doesn't go in. Conversations have no real focus and she repeats herself often, or goes off onto another subject and you have to remind her what you had asked her. She has had several falls recently too, the most recent being today when she decided to go out to her local football club to ask about her season ticket as she was worried they would sell it to someone else, despite being told by two family members that she didn't need to go there, they wouldn't do this, etc. Now she's fallen down some steps and is at a and e by herself and this wouldn't have happened if she'd not gone. The falls clinic were supposed to come and see her but some admin error meant they didn't then they discharged her, she phoned her doctor who said he'd look into it, we kept reminding her to chase it up and each time we got "oh, it's ok, the doctor is sorting that out". She's had some appointments about her kidneys but we have no idea what is wrong as she's never able to explain it. She has diabetes and I worry that she doesn't eat properly and only snacks on things that "the doctor said I can have these". I worry that she'll get told something important health related but forget or not tell us or tell it wrong. She sold her car last year because driving had become very stressful but won't get a taxi when we tell her she struggles on the bus instead. She took £6000 in cash out of the bank in error instead of £600 (she won't use cards or cash machines) and brother in law had to take her to the bank to pay it back in. She was given some information about MCI last year but she never read it! I looked at it and said oh, there's lots of tips in here on how you can maintain your memory, her response was "they'll look after me", like it's totally up to someone else. I've ranted, sorry! I think I need to ask - what do we do now? Both her sons work away during the week so if something happened to here they'd be miles away and unable to help. Should we try and get to the doctor's with her? I know if you try and talk to her she just doesn't retain it. Thanks for listening.