Morning all. Seems I only ever come on here to complain and I can see I am in a far better position than most on here but.............Mum has Alzheimers, for 2 years now - I live with her, I have no other family, no support and I work from home.
I just cant stop daily arguments - I can cope with the memory loss, finding things in weird places, the hallucinations but I cant stand walking on egg shells not knowing what may trigger an evil argument. This morning it was over a courier collecting a box, I had to take dog for walk for 20 mins and asked if she would hand box to him (if he turned up). 2 hours later she is still ranting at me for being so nasty and horrible. Anything can set her off - "would you like more tea" triggers an argument as Im forcing her to drink more. These aren't normal arguments, she goes into a rage, its like red mist descending. I get called all the names under the sun. She visibly shakes which isn't doing her any good. I know its the disease and not her but its so hard. Ive tried the agree with everything approach but I forget sometimes.
Ive waffled on, but if anyone knows of any way to keep her calm please let me know - Im doing everything so very wrong.
Thank you for reading x
I just cant stop daily arguments - I can cope with the memory loss, finding things in weird places, the hallucinations but I cant stand walking on egg shells not knowing what may trigger an evil argument. This morning it was over a courier collecting a box, I had to take dog for walk for 20 mins and asked if she would hand box to him (if he turned up). 2 hours later she is still ranting at me for being so nasty and horrible. Anything can set her off - "would you like more tea" triggers an argument as Im forcing her to drink more. These aren't normal arguments, she goes into a rage, its like red mist descending. I get called all the names under the sun. She visibly shakes which isn't doing her any good. I know its the disease and not her but its so hard. Ive tried the agree with everything approach but I forget sometimes.
Ive waffled on, but if anyone knows of any way to keep her calm please let me know - Im doing everything so very wrong.
Thank you for reading x