what to do you do when you ask for help and it isnt there? for those that have followed my posts know that I had asked for respite care but in the end we did not take it. I was given some help this weekend to reinstate our respite care for this year but it seems that the doctor wants us to go back and prove that the MIL has capacity to say if she wants respite care or not. My OH and I have had a massive row about it - he is in denial and its all falling apart at the seams. The MIL agreed to respite in January then a month later she forgot and chucked her toys out the pram and guilt decided to have a go at us so we went against the care taking separate hols. I asked him the OH to come with we to the docs again to get respite care, I'm on my knees physically speaking and he has refused saying whats the point in a year she wont know we can go on hols then.... SS wont do anything without the doc, the doc wont dont anything without the MIL and the OH is in denial. I'm done in.