I'm a new member. I have joined because my Mum is a carer for her husband who is just 51. They had been married for only 3 years when he started to become ill. He's her second husband - my Dad died about 13 years ago. We thought she had finally found happiness and then this dreadful disease arrived on the scene.
Since my step dad was diagnosed just over one year ago they have had very little support from anyone. They have re-located in that time to try and be nearer to friends and to my Grandma. But as it turns they don't see much of their friends and my Gran has fallen ill and is in hospital at the moment. Mum can't face her friends as she doesn't want to spend her time with them moaning.
It is such a sad situation. My Mum feels absolutely trapped and is desperately lonely. She is fighting depression as hard as she can but it takes over sometimes.
And although he doesn't actually express it in words we know my step dad feels lonely too, and worst of all he feels as though he is useless. He too is depressed.
He has been to the local memory clinic but it is full of people of the generation old than he is. There appears to be no support for younger people with dementia.
He needs some kind of counselling to help him cope and my Mum needs some support with the day to day stuff. She is exhausted from running the house and working too.
I live away from home in London and I can't be there very often. Plus it is way too easy for me to switch off to it all when I don't hear from them for a few days.
My fiance and I were due to move back but that has since changed and we will be away for the next couple of years. We can make it back once every month or two but Mum needs more support than that.
I just don't know how to help her. She has been seeing a counsellor and the sessions make her feel even worse, because at the end of the day, this thing isn't going to get better or easier is it?
What can I do? Does anyone have any suggestions?
Thanks C
Since my step dad was diagnosed just over one year ago they have had very little support from anyone. They have re-located in that time to try and be nearer to friends and to my Grandma. But as it turns they don't see much of their friends and my Gran has fallen ill and is in hospital at the moment. Mum can't face her friends as she doesn't want to spend her time with them moaning.
It is such a sad situation. My Mum feels absolutely trapped and is desperately lonely. She is fighting depression as hard as she can but it takes over sometimes.
And although he doesn't actually express it in words we know my step dad feels lonely too, and worst of all he feels as though he is useless. He too is depressed.
He has been to the local memory clinic but it is full of people of the generation old than he is. There appears to be no support for younger people with dementia.
He needs some kind of counselling to help him cope and my Mum needs some support with the day to day stuff. She is exhausted from running the house and working too.
I live away from home in London and I can't be there very often. Plus it is way too easy for me to switch off to it all when I don't hear from them for a few days.
My fiance and I were due to move back but that has since changed and we will be away for the next couple of years. We can make it back once every month or two but Mum needs more support than that.
I just don't know how to help her. She has been seeing a counsellor and the sessions make her feel even worse, because at the end of the day, this thing isn't going to get better or easier is it?
What can I do? Does anyone have any suggestions?
Thanks C