AliceA,yes, there is a certain peace comes from it. I've now had two quiet and peaceful days, still can't quite still the nerves in my stomach, but there is a certain calm around my home. I must add though,I do live down a very quiet lane, not many houses. Alice I hope you too have enjoyed a sense of peace and may it last. XXXX FrancyPerhaps just a quiet day is what we all need, no outside pressure, appointments, deliveries, timetables.
Yesterday I totally lost it, I'm so ashamed of myself, I normally manage to cope, but just snapped, I suppose it's been coming for a long time, I'm just so tired. I have not been out of the house for weeks except to keep a hospital appointment, so I'm with JH all day every day, there's no getting away, all my shopping is delivered, we live in a rural village. But since just over a week ago JH decided he can't eat food he needs to chew as it sticks in his teeth, I'm trying my best to please him and give him a healthy diet but he just says no to most things offered, when I ask what would he like, he says he doesn't know as he's not the cook and can only tell me what he doesn't want. Also he won't drink much as he's says it's making him pee too much. So yesterday when I made him a sausage sandwich for breakfast which he usually really likes, you'd think I put something weird and horrible on his plate, well as I say to my shame I just lost it, I don't remember when I last cried so hard or so much, so I've gone from tired to exhausted and he harped on about that sandwich for hours afterwards. I am do not coping with the new turn of events, I was managing OK up until this food thing and it's not as if I can just go to the shops and get something else. Today I hate myself for my outburst.
I really hope JH doesn't go back on his word to see doctorXXXX Francy
PS there was a rainbow in the waterfall - something I hadn’t seen before ! Love to all x
View attachment 60269 I will try and upload a picture of where I walked this morning - a warm day in the Blue Mountains
Hello Jenniferjean, I did this months ago as I hadn't been well. Before we got to the surgery JH told me under no circumstances was he going in to see the doctor. When I was with the doctor he noticed my fast pulse and heart rate and asked me did I know about it, I told him yes it was only when I was stressed. My doctor is a lovely young man and he wangled out of me my problem, but I really didn't want to betray my husband and wanted him to go to doctor when he was ready ,I'm not ready to lose his trust especially after over 40 of marriage, I need him to trust me, so I wait. I will wait only a little longer, till end of holiday,then I must get him there, if he won't go then I will. My outburst really scared me, I have never ever lost the plot like that before, didn't know I was capable of it. I know this journey we all make is a long one and I need to be up to it. I think my doctor new it was coming,he said I was on the edge, he gave me diazapam to help, but I don’t want to be dependent on them as I need them for pain relief also , I have osteoporosis and arthritis in my spine. On a brighter note we've had a lovely quiet Christmas, there has been a sort of peace come over my home and JH has been more his old self and I could feel some of my tension slip away. I thank you for caring. I am lucky to have found Talking Point and somewhere to share my fears and worries with others in the same situation. XXXX FrancyFrancy, he really must see the doctor. If he does go back on his word and say he doesn't need to go then do what I did. I made the appointment for myself but as my husband couldn't be left alone he had to come with me. He waited outside the surgery and I explained to the doctor what was happening. She then called my husband into the room and spoke to him and we took if from there.
Hi Francy
I’m not sure whether you are any nearer to making that GP appointment? I know this is all really hard for you.
I just wanted you to know that I’m thinking about you.
Christmas is over, you and I both got through it, regardless of how difficult it might have been.
Now for New Year.... something else to work our way through.
What might have been said pre Christmas might now feel like a mountain to climb. None of this is easy.... but I’m here if it helps.
Please take care of yourself....
With love, B xx