As if the week hasn't been challenging enough - I now have my mother's carers secretly (though the one carer said it to my face about an hour ago) thinking I'm deliberately not feeding my mother. Basically starving her. This opinion has been formed because I've asked them not to force feed mom, to let her sleep/rest if that's what she wants to do...They think that mom eating 2 bowls of soup and drinking half a litre of water in one sitting is going to make everything alright. Talking to them, telling them, having a grown up conversation explaining why (for example) they shouldn't be trying to shove a cup of water under mom's nose and hold it there until she swallows doesn't seem to be having any impact. They think I've just given up on my mom. I'm so upset! From everything I have been told by Palliative + District nurses, GP even through the wonderful people here at Talking Point sharing your experiences, my mother not wanting to eat and sleeping alot is not uncommon at this stage (though mom did buck the trend and stay awake for HOURS!!! on Wednesday). Allowing her to do either is something that I should not be criticised for. I think I'm beyond angry... If I could take care of my mother alone I wouldn't have them back in the house ever. They are very ignorant and disrespectful. I have asked before, but if anyone knows of a more professional outfit that have experience of dealing with someone in mom's stage of life please, please let me know. I'm based in SE England. Sorry for ranting...didn't know what else to do...I just had to let it out.