Thanks hilly billy. Been putting my husband first as I burnt myself out with worry, I have taken the last 3 years of our life to the solicitors ready to pass to his children as apparently he spent to much money over the last 3 years. How do you explain this to someone with dementia. Today my husband was horrified when I explained I had no way of paying for anything except for cash that has been passed to me which was £150. Everyone tells us that this can't be right but the public guardian claim that the attorneys can decide what they feel is right for him to live on. I feel that he has been treated like a parasite by both the consultant who wrote the report, his children and the public guardian. I think he would have been better off not sorting the POA.
He pleaded with me to take him away on holiday and to be honest I think that's what I should do as how much longer is he going to be able to carry on. He feels like his has been robbed of his money as he can't acccess it. He has little respect but each day I take him to the pub and the clientele are so respectful to him they try to include him and talk to him even though they know he might not answer I feel so humble today as when I went to the bar to get him a drink a gentleman attempted to make small talk with him knowing that he might not reply but he was including him into a circle of friends. I have lost all hope and respect to the system that would let someone be withheld from there lifelong earnings there wife and full time carer be treated like this.
I thank everyone for there help but the system that is meant to help has let us down, I thought we were protected with the statement in his best interest but unless they take his money the guardian don't want to know.
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He pleaded with me to take him away on holiday and to be honest I think that's what I should do as how much longer is he going to be able to carry on. He feels like his has been robbed of his money as he can't acccess it. He has little respect but each day I take him to the pub and the clientele are so respectful to him they try to include him and talk to him even though they know he might not answer I feel so humble today as when I went to the bar to get him a drink a gentleman attempted to make small talk with him knowing that he might not reply but he was including him into a circle of friends. I have lost all hope and respect to the system that would let someone be withheld from there lifelong earnings there wife and full time carer be treated like this.
I thank everyone for there help but the system that is meant to help has let us down, I thought we were protected with the statement in his best interest but unless they take his money the guardian don't want to know.
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