Could cry for you CG, when you're feeling so down. Looks like a big Group Hug has already formed on here, and I'd like to join in. There don't seem to be any answers, and I sometimes think about how one case of Alzheimer's can end up affecting so many members of a family, the Carers, then those who try to support the Carers, and the children who are having to learn about things they're not ready for. You are piggy in the middle, the worst place to be when you should be enjoying life, and you're doing so well, but no wonder your spirits are low.
Speaking as my husband's carer, and observing how my daughters in law are doing their best to help, I worry about Christmas too. This year we are going to spend Christmas Day with the son who's turn it is to have us, ( they think I haven't noticed) but we're driving home next morning as it's only Christmas Day that matters. Next year, further down the line, I think that if my husband and I spent Christmas Day on our own, my husband would accept a quiet day with the TV for company, and although my daughters in law would be concerned, I know it would be a treat for them to be able to do their own thing. One family love to go to their place in a ski resort the other likes to go to friends in Italy. Yes, I'd feel a bit sad, but when I think of the millions of people whose Christmas is so much worse... We're lucky to have warmth and comfort and food on the table.....
Oh dear, I do hope that didn't read like a sanctimonious lecture! What I suppose I'm saying is that it is possible to consider alternatives to a duty family Christmas. You might even find that your father welcomes the idea.
Speaking as my husband's carer, and observing how my daughters in law are doing their best to help, I worry about Christmas too. This year we are going to spend Christmas Day with the son who's turn it is to have us, ( they think I haven't noticed) but we're driving home next morning as it's only Christmas Day that matters. Next year, further down the line, I think that if my husband and I spent Christmas Day on our own, my husband would accept a quiet day with the TV for company, and although my daughters in law would be concerned, I know it would be a treat for them to be able to do their own thing. One family love to go to their place in a ski resort the other likes to go to friends in Italy. Yes, I'd feel a bit sad, but when I think of the millions of people whose Christmas is so much worse... We're lucky to have warmth and comfort and food on the table.....
Oh dear, I do hope that didn't read like a sanctimonious lecture! What I suppose I'm saying is that it is possible to consider alternatives to a duty family Christmas. You might even find that your father welcomes the idea.