Hi everyone!
Wow my first ever thread, on my first ever internet chat site! I seemed to let the era of internet talking, dating, and whatever else goes on somehow pass me by, but now I find myself about to dive right in and reveal all the secrets of my little broken family. Be gentle with me all of you out there!
So my life so far.... My Mum was diagnosed with vascular dementia 3 years ago, a year later my Dad was diagnosed with cancer. Mum's deterioration has been steady, not helped by the constant changes in my Dad's condition or the volume of new information that inevitably comes from such a horrible disease. To cut a long story short, my Dad died at the end of May 08 and in amongst the grief of death is the grief of also watching my Mum slowly leave this world too. In some respects, myself and my two sisters have it easy - Mum has company from my younger sister (early 20's) who moved back home a few months ago, and care and support from myself and my older sister (also in our 20's). She still walks the dog (although has lost him twice!), attemps some shopping (only buys cookies and an occassional pint of milk), and still remembers who I am (most of the time). On the downside she doesn't take her tablets and gets aggressive with any one who tries to give them to her, talks to my younger sister like a piece of dirt, has thrown things at her and generally makes up horrendous stories about the three of us which she tells to most of her friends.
So my point?? Well, I'm a bit stuck in what to do. Obviously this is an emotional time of the highest degree and losing your husband of 38 years would devestate even the most mentally sound person. Do you think I should start to step in now and get help from our memory clinic who my Mum is a patient of as really, this is as good as it is going to get? I've read acouple of other threads and it seems there may be some help out there in the community - maybe help with meals for her etc (my sister has to go back to work at the beginning of July).
I suppose in general this is a good place to come just to speak to others, release some steam and hopefully get some advice. I think I know the answer to my question of is this as good as it will get - maybe we can just hope for a good day, or hour ??
Thanks for listening
Jo
Wow my first ever thread, on my first ever internet chat site! I seemed to let the era of internet talking, dating, and whatever else goes on somehow pass me by, but now I find myself about to dive right in and reveal all the secrets of my little broken family. Be gentle with me all of you out there!
So my life so far.... My Mum was diagnosed with vascular dementia 3 years ago, a year later my Dad was diagnosed with cancer. Mum's deterioration has been steady, not helped by the constant changes in my Dad's condition or the volume of new information that inevitably comes from such a horrible disease. To cut a long story short, my Dad died at the end of May 08 and in amongst the grief of death is the grief of also watching my Mum slowly leave this world too. In some respects, myself and my two sisters have it easy - Mum has company from my younger sister (early 20's) who moved back home a few months ago, and care and support from myself and my older sister (also in our 20's). She still walks the dog (although has lost him twice!), attemps some shopping (only buys cookies and an occassional pint of milk), and still remembers who I am (most of the time). On the downside she doesn't take her tablets and gets aggressive with any one who tries to give them to her, talks to my younger sister like a piece of dirt, has thrown things at her and generally makes up horrendous stories about the three of us which she tells to most of her friends.
So my point?? Well, I'm a bit stuck in what to do. Obviously this is an emotional time of the highest degree and losing your husband of 38 years would devestate even the most mentally sound person. Do you think I should start to step in now and get help from our memory clinic who my Mum is a patient of as really, this is as good as it is going to get? I've read acouple of other threads and it seems there may be some help out there in the community - maybe help with meals for her etc (my sister has to go back to work at the beginning of July).
I suppose in general this is a good place to come just to speak to others, release some steam and hopefully get some advice. I think I know the answer to my question of is this as good as it will get - maybe we can just hope for a good day, or hour ??
Thanks for listening
Jo