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Discussion in 'I care for a person with dementia' started by sukaren, Nov 19, 2015.

  1. sukaren

    sukaren Registered User

    Nov 18, 2015
    10
    Wiltshire
    Hello, I'm Sue and new here, I don't really know what to say? My Mother has mixed dementia Vascular/Alzheimer's - I'm an only child and was extremely close to my mum she was my mother and best friend. Her condition has broken my heart, however, I discovered Talking Point and here I am!
     
  2. nannylondon

    nannylondon Registered User

    Apr 7, 2014
    2,475
    London
    Hello Sue and welcome to TP sorry about your mum but you will find lots of support and advice on here it's been a life saver for me xx
     
  3. Stresshead

    Stresshead Registered User

    Sep 13, 2014
    96
    Hi Sue welcome to TP. So sorry to hear about your mum. All of us on here know how you feel and can be sure we will support you when you need it.

    Sending hugs and strength xx


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  4. jaymor

    jaymor Volunteer Moderator

    Jul 14, 2006
    12,524
    Female
    England
    Welcome to TP, sorry that you Mum has dementia but lots of support, advice and friendship to be found here. Everyone understands the ups and downs you will feel so use the forum to help you. Look forward to you joining us.
     
  5. Quilty

    Quilty Registered User

    Aug 28, 2014
    1,051
    GLASGOW
    Hello Sue, you will find friends here who completely understand what you are going through and will support you. Here you can say anything without being judged. I have found it to be a life saver during my darkest days.

    Im so sorry about your Mum. Mine also have vascular dementia and alzheimers. It is very hard.
    Love
    Quilty
     
  6. fizzie

    fizzie Registered User

    Jul 20, 2011
    2,731
    hi Sue
    Welcome to TP and all the support and friendship you will find here. I too am an only child and my Mum had dementia. I now also look after a close family friend with memory loss. Lots of useful info on here and people to chat to.
    xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
     
  7. scattysue

    scattysue Registered User

    Aug 20, 2015
    65
    Hello Sue and welcome to Talking Point
    I'm sorry to hear about your mum but I am glad you have found this forum - you will get lots of help and support here.
    I care for my sister who has Alzheimers still at a fairly early stage and I have found lots of helpful information here
    Look forward to reading your posts in the future
    xx
     
  8. Slugsta

    Slugsta Registered User

    Hello and welcome to TP :)

    I am also the only child of a single remaining parent, although my Mum is not far down the dementia road as yet, I know how hard it can be.
     
  9. exhausted 2015

    exhausted 2015 Registered User

    Jul 5, 2015
    624
    Female
    stoke on trent
    Hello sue welcome to talking point. My dad has the same condition
    .it really is heartbreaking. Isn't it. But you will get a lot of support on here you only have to ask xx
     
  10. Louby65

    Louby65 Registered User

    Mar 26, 2014
    619
    Scotland
    Hi Sukaren . Welcome . There are lots of cyberspace hugs here whenever you need them . I have looked after my mum , who has vascular dementia , since she had a stroke 26 tears ago. As you can imagine we have had many dark moments ( tonight being one of them!) but I have always found this site a ' welcome friend' in what can sometimes be a very lonely journey . Please don't be alone , visit the site often for support . You won't be disappointed . Best wishes to you and your mum . Lou
     
  11. lizzybean

    lizzybean Registered User

    Feb 3, 2014
    1,366
    Lancashire
    Hi Sue a welcome from me too. I echo what everyone else has said. Ask questions, moan, rant or just chat. Cannot remember who posted it but you will not be judged for anything you say & any question you need advice on somebody will have been in that particular situation & will be able to pass on snippets of info that might well help.
     
  12. Shedrech

    Shedrech Volunteer Moderator

    Dec 15, 2012
    8,077
    Yorkshire
    Welcome from me too, Sukaren
    Louby65, I hope you don't mind this:
    I love the typos sometimes left in posts; they often say as much as the actual version
    for instance
    and TP is here for the tears, and the smiles and everything else
    so, Sukaren, you've found a safe place to say whatever you may want to
     
  13. sukaren

    sukaren Registered User

    Nov 18, 2015
    10
    Wiltshire
    Thank you!!!!

    Thank you from the bottom of my heart for such a wonderful warm welcome to TP, you will never know how much I appreciated you all taking the time to write such lovely heartwarming messages. Bless you ALL XX
     
  14. lizzybean

    lizzybean Registered User

    Feb 3, 2014
    1,366
    Lancashire
    Hey, it's just what we do!
     
  15. sukaren

    sukaren Registered User

    Nov 18, 2015
    10
    Wiltshire
    26 Tears ago

    Yes, I did note the 26 tears ago and found it very poignant. Thank you for your beautiful words XX
     
  16. sukaren

    sukaren Registered User

    Nov 18, 2015
    10
    Wiltshire
    Well bless you for doing it! I feel less alone already! I normally cry myself to sleep most nights as I'm in sooooo much pain over my mum. Mum is in a Nursing Home as I was unable to give her the care she needed ie 24/7 attention, however I'm racked with guilt! Anyway I will leave it there for now. Thank you again xx
     
  17. lizzybean

    lizzybean Registered User

    Feb 3, 2014
    1,366
    Lancashire
    We have a big stick that we pass around to whoever is being attacked by the guilt monster, seems it's your turn! If you had put Mum in there because you couldn't be bothered caring for her then that is one thing but you didn't. She's there for her own good, she is safe, warm, fed & cared for 24/7 something which you couldn't do. You have a life too. You are important too.
    Time to pick up the stick & beat GM with it, be warned, he is persistent. Scarlett had a thread on "I have a partner with dementia" page talking about guilt, check it out. Better still someone more computer savvy than me will attach it here for you.
     
  18. lizzybean

    lizzybean Registered User

    Feb 3, 2014
    1,366
    Lancashire
  19. LOU_JONES

    LOU_JONES Registered User

    Nov 18, 2015
    22
    Hello Sue,
    My nan was diagnosed with Vascular Dementia last year in August, it's awful.
    I am new on here too and found this site yesterday!
    I am amazed at the amount of kind words, advice and general tips for anyone who cares for or is part of someone with Dementia / Alzheimers life.
    Already it seems easier with support :)
    x
     

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