Hi, I'm going to have to be careful or this will become an incredibly long post. I'm currently looking after my partner's parents (whom for the sake of abbreviations I will call MIL and FIL). MIL was diagnosed with Vascular Dementia years ago. Long before he and I met. FIL was her main carer and my partner moved them to Inverness so that they were close to him. Last year FIL had a spate of falling and really wasn't himself. He was eventually taken into hospital where they diagnosed him with Alzheimer's and Vascular Dementia. He also had a UTI so as you can imagine he was extremely confused. When he left hospital, I temporarily moved in with them to look after them. We needed to find a house big enough for all of us. We eventually found somewhere suitable with what is almost a granny flat type affair in the house. We all moved in (I cannot even begin to explain how stressful that particular house move was) and we soon got into our own little routine. However, from day one when we were having meetings about their care, the day centre staff have been against us looking after them. The manager actually shouted at me that I couldn't do it because I 'wasn't trained!' and that they should go into a care home even though it was against their wishes because my FIL's Alzheimer's meant that his decisions could now be ignore/overturned. Their staff have repeatedly put me down and made comments about the level of care I provide. Even going so far as to report me to SS for neglect! SS investigated and spoke to various home carers and nurses and the GP and are happy that everything is fine here, but I still have to put up with hostility from the day centre staff. FIL now doesn't sleep well at all and I'm currently trying various suggestions. The current one being paracetamol and soothing music. We have a full personal care package which is let down by the useless office staff who really don't take our needs into consideration at all. We are trying to go for SDS, but although we asked the SW, he never did anything about it and now he has closed the case so we are on a waiting list for a new SW. Thankfully FIL and MIL are away for two weeks respite from Monday as I am way past ready for a break. Anyway, so much for my keeping it short. I'm here. I'm fed up with the so called support services and I really just need to chat to folk who know what I'm talking about for a change. So, um... Hi.