Today - with my family I went to see Mum in her new care home which she has been in for just over a week. I thought I had prepared myself for the worst but I was emotionally knocked over by how bad Mum was - frail, weight loss, she hadn't eaten or drunk for several days as well as no sleep - and this is a care home we are paying £1,000+ per week. Mum was in a mess. Begging to be taken home. We all felt terrible. Please tell me that this is 'normal' for the initial weeks. I said to my Dad - who had been caring for her over the past 10 years that she was doing alot better under his care at home which was ultimately taken away from him when he no longer could cope and police became involved when we could not stop her running away from home. The home seemed very passive about it all and only after we kicked up a stink about the situation that they then came running out into the car park as we were leaving saying a Doctor had been called to see her today. Is this right? I appreciate a huge amount of adjustment will be needed for mum but the home had not been able to get her to eat, drink, sleep or wash. I thought these people were supposed to be the experts!!!!!!