My mother had brain haemorhage 3 years ago. She was in hospital for 9 months and then came home with carers. As the eldest daughter it all falls on my shoulders. I have overseen everything since her coming home and it's not easy, as you all know. In January i had operation that went wrong ( long story ) and even though they saved my life, I now have ongoing problems. 6 weeks ago mother started bizarre behaviour like packing everything, leqving house on Zimmer frame to fetch children from school ( in her mind she is sometimes 35 ). Set fire to bits of paper, and generally deteriorated. We are told she has vascular dementia following the brain haemorrhage. She has very recently been out on mimantene sp? 10 days ago she was hospitalised as doctor wanted to check her decline wasn't medical. Ct scan showed no new bleeds and medically she is ok. Since being in hospital she has continued with her rituals ie packing etc but has become very aggressive and very agitated. Visiting is a nightmare as it makes her worse as she think we are bringing her home. It seems likely she will not be coming home as they feel she is unsafe. I worry that she is like this because she is in hospital and feel any mental capacity assessment will not show the true picture. Admittedly she has deteriorated but is now much worse. I feel at the end of my tether, I can't face her going into a home - it will Prob be an EMI home. We will have to see her house to pay for it but i couldn't care about that - it's all so distressing. Anyone been here and is there any way back from this ?