Mostly good news today
I have my car back Yay! The garage phoned lunch time and said it was ready to be picked so I phoned invisible brother. He answered the phone, only to tell me that he was at the opticians, had had drops in his eyes and therefore couldnt drive for two hours. Eventually I got to the hospital. OH was sitting up in bed reading, so much improved. He is no longer on IV antibiotics and seems to have turned a corner. Unfortunately, his mobility is no better. He still cannot even stand unaided, but needs a zimmer frame and can only take a few steps. Im actually quite concerned about how I will cope if his mobility doesnt improve, even with a care package.
Please think twice before you aggree to him coming home @canary. If they say his chest infection has cleared so he can come home. He needs to be seen by OT while hes there and then you can suggest he has rehab somewhere, as my hubby did and hes been there 2 weeks now having intensive physio everyday. I've got a review meeting next week to discuss what happens next. If hes ok to come home, but I dont want to go back to square one watching him whenever he is walking or getting out of a chair. I think we have to make these difficult decisions while this crisis like being in hospital is happening. But it sounds like your OH needs proper physio in a rehab for few weeks .It must be a relief for you though seeing him sitting up and off the IV's.It was the loss of mobility which did it for me canary and made me decide on residential care.
Because your husband is so young it will be very difficult for you to find somewhere good enough for him. That`s the worry.
You know what? I had exactly the same thought.But maybe a few weeks in a carehome will be enough for your hubby to recover his strength. It’s a shame you can’t get the one that’s just closed .
Goodluck with everything @canary, I hope you and your OH get the end result that's good for both of you. I know I keep saying it but the rehab/carehome my hubby is in is a lovely place, it's only a temporary carehome though max stay 6 weeks.I see your on south coast I am too but east sussex so it's probably not near you. Hope your day goes well.I havent been sleeping well for the last couple of nights with worrying about things, but last night I slept like a log.
At least today I can plan my day and choose the time to visit OH - Im planning for mid-morning.
Yes @pevensey I will indeed get everything in place before I agree to have him home. Ive already said that I will need a home assessment @Palerider . Thats what worries me @Grannie G . You give me hope @jugglingmum - maybe OH will get back to base-line eventually
You know what? I had exactly the same thought.
You give me hope @jugglingmum - maybe OH will get back to base-line eventually
Thank you DoD
Daughter and SIL cooked dinner - steak salad and chips with wine. Absolutely delicious. Ive been surviving on takeaways and ready meals all week so this was an especial treat.