Hi - This is my first time on Talking Point so please excuse me if I don't know what I'm doing! After spending 16 weeks in hospital, my Mum has just moved into the new dementia wing of a nursing home. She is suffering from vascular dementia and is extremely unhappy and distressed. She hates being in a "home" and can't understand why she needs to be cared for 24 hrs a day. Her recognition function is extremely bad so she can't read, watch tv, do a puzzle, do her embroidery. The staff are trying to find something to entertain her but her concentration is extremely bad. She loves seeing her family but can't remember visits afterwards and can't look forward to ones we've planned. She was only diagnosed last November and I'm finding it so hard to accept that I can't make her life okay! Last night she was barricading herself into her room "so her family couldn't get in". How can I accept that my Mum, who has spent her life looking after my Dad, my brother and me, is so distressed all the time? I want to repay her some how but everyone is advising me to try to accept there's nothing more I can do. This is really, really terrible.