It is some time since I have posted on TP but feel I want to write down my feelings and may be someone will come along to reassure me that all will eventually be well and that I am doing the right thing. My husband was diagnosed with alzheimers about three years ago which is when I joined TP, I have been popping in and out of TP most evenings since then but not actually started a new thread. Unfortunately things have reached crisis point now and I felt, along with my very supportive family, that I needed to look for a good care home as I could no longer give him the care he needed. I would have liked him to go into the Care Home where he has attended for day care but the waiting list was very long and no hope of a vacancy in the near future. My Social Worker found a very nice care home which she thought would be suitable for him and I went and had a look and liked what I saw and felt confident that it would be the right place for him to be. SO next Friday morning my two daughters and myself are going to take him there and we are not looking forward to it. He has been in respite several times and always been difficult when going in and made us feel really guilty but the carers tell us that after a short time he does settle. But this is different because it will be permanent. We are going to the care home on Thursday evening and have bought a lovely Welsh Duvet Cover and matching curtains as he is very proud of his Welsh routes. We will also put up pictures and some treasured ornaments and of course his television set. We will go for coffee and leave just before lunch. I just don't know what to say to him as I feel sure he will object very strongly when we leave. Anyone any tips for how to go about this. For now this is all that I am worrying about but next week they are sending a Benefits Officer to do an assessment and then make a decision as to how much I will have to contribute towards his care (I am not self funding) and whether or not I can get pension credit. I only have the very basic pension and will really have to budget like I have never done before. But one thing at a time and I will cross that bridge when I come to it. Thank you for reading this.