Need some advice
Hi I'm wondering if anyone can give me some advice my has Alzheimer's and she's only 53. As her Carer i am really struggling to cope I'm only 30. I work full time as well having to Carer for my mother who is detirating.
Our relationship is damaged beyond belief for the past two days we haven't spoken to each other. When we do talk we argue. My mothers personal hygiene is awful every time I bring the subject we argue. I'm at my wits end I have no support everything falls on me
Working full time is my only escape I dread coming home at the end of the to find what mood she will be in from happy and normal to extreme anger. I'm constantly living on egg shells. I really don't know what to do ,
Every night I'm going to bed in tears because I'm lost even more of mum, we're not mum and daughter anymore. I'm finding it so hard to cope.
Her personal hygiene affects me so much that I can no longer go out in public with , I find skin crawlingly embarrassing.i should be able to enjoy the time that I have with my mum , but I feel guilty because I feel so embarrassed when I'm with her.
I've tried going down the route of social services but they sent a social worker that didn't speak English. Which just made things even more stressful ,they didn't understand my mums condition and said I couldn't have regular care workers come in . Which made both my mom and I uncomfortable.
I've tried registering with Carer support filled in all their forms and didn't hear anything from them. I've been to an evening support group that consists of me and two other cares who were in their late 70's . No offence them but I struggled to relate with them as they were both retired and had the time to spend with their repent , where as I work full time.i can't afford not to work as my wages pays the bills. I really don't know why to turn or what to do next. I really am at my breaking point
I would be great full for anyone advice because I know need help but I don't know where to go next
Hi I'm wondering if anyone can give me some advice my has Alzheimer's and she's only 53. As her Carer i am really struggling to cope I'm only 30. I work full time as well having to Carer for my mother who is detirating.
Our relationship is damaged beyond belief for the past two days we haven't spoken to each other. When we do talk we argue. My mothers personal hygiene is awful every time I bring the subject we argue. I'm at my wits end I have no support everything falls on me
Working full time is my only escape I dread coming home at the end of the to find what mood she will be in from happy and normal to extreme anger. I'm constantly living on egg shells. I really don't know what to do ,
Every night I'm going to bed in tears because I'm lost even more of mum, we're not mum and daughter anymore. I'm finding it so hard to cope.
Her personal hygiene affects me so much that I can no longer go out in public with , I find skin crawlingly embarrassing.i should be able to enjoy the time that I have with my mum , but I feel guilty because I feel so embarrassed when I'm with her.
I've tried going down the route of social services but they sent a social worker that didn't speak English. Which just made things even more stressful ,they didn't understand my mums condition and said I couldn't have regular care workers come in . Which made both my mom and I uncomfortable.
I've tried registering with Carer support filled in all their forms and didn't hear anything from them. I've been to an evening support group that consists of me and two other cares who were in their late 70's . No offence them but I struggled to relate with them as they were both retired and had the time to spend with their repent , where as I work full time.i can't afford not to work as my wages pays the bills. I really don't know why to turn or what to do next. I really am at my breaking point
I would be great full for anyone advice because I know need help but I don't know where to go next