I am in a situation where I know about my husband's diagnosed vascular dementia.I have been told he is in the "moderate" stage. He doesn't know this. I find myself feeling very disloyal when discussing the situation with the few people who I have told. One has the same situation with her husband and she is such good support as she has been there. Her wise words of advice are "do you want to be right or happy?". As this is a new situation, it being diagnosed only in January, I am feeling that I should have done something sooner as I have nearly walked out on my marriage previously because of the aggressiveness (luckily, not physical) and irratability. I saw the Doctor several years ago about my husband's behaviour and my not able to accept it. I am having to cope with this alone, as our 2 daughters live 200plus miles away. Luckily I have my own activites to get me away from home and luckily my husband encourages me to keep them up.