In my case Mum 74 with Moderate AD & Dad 77 with cognitive impairment.
My parents live in their own house behind ours but because of Dads MCI, he finds Mums AD hard to fathom. He has no coping skills or strategies ( not for want of trying on our part) and even after 2 yrs still gets mad at her for not remembering, or losing things etc.
My brother who comes and goes is equally useless.
At any time my husband, children and I have gone away for a night or weekend, my sister who lives 30 mns away has been here if need be.
So now my sister & DH have invited the 4 of us to her holiday home for a long weekend.
Its over 2 hrs drive away.
Personally I don't feel comfortable leaving Mum with my Dad for 3 nights, even with my brother on hand. I could arrange carers or a neighbour to call in, but Mum and Dad are still going to be 24/7. I doubt even in the event if an emergency that either of them would think to press their alarm button.
I'm the only one that knows Mum best. I am registered as Mums main carer as well as her POA for health & welfare.
Up until now there has always been me or my sister on hand for Mum.
I can just imagine telling Mum that both her daughters will be away. The anxiety and questions that will follow... Also Mum is not at such an advanced stage that I could just tell her on the day that we are going.
Am I being over protective....? Or in my sisters words I can't always put my life on hold for Mum.... But then shes not the one here to tell Mum that we are going away for the weekend and answering her endless questions, and seeing the look on her face as we drive off....
My parents live in their own house behind ours but because of Dads MCI, he finds Mums AD hard to fathom. He has no coping skills or strategies ( not for want of trying on our part) and even after 2 yrs still gets mad at her for not remembering, or losing things etc.
My brother who comes and goes is equally useless.
At any time my husband, children and I have gone away for a night or weekend, my sister who lives 30 mns away has been here if need be.
So now my sister & DH have invited the 4 of us to her holiday home for a long weekend.
Its over 2 hrs drive away.
Personally I don't feel comfortable leaving Mum with my Dad for 3 nights, even with my brother on hand. I could arrange carers or a neighbour to call in, but Mum and Dad are still going to be 24/7. I doubt even in the event if an emergency that either of them would think to press their alarm button.
I'm the only one that knows Mum best. I am registered as Mums main carer as well as her POA for health & welfare.
Up until now there has always been me or my sister on hand for Mum.
I can just imagine telling Mum that both her daughters will be away. The anxiety and questions that will follow... Also Mum is not at such an advanced stage that I could just tell her on the day that we are going.
Am I being over protective....? Or in my sisters words I can't always put my life on hold for Mum.... But then shes not the one here to tell Mum that we are going away for the weekend and answering her endless questions, and seeing the look on her face as we drive off....