Hello! Weirdly, I joined this forum yesterday evening after a bit of a day, sorting out what appears to be a spike in my mum’s dementia.
And now it’s 2.20am and I’m at mum’s, waiting for her to emerge from the loo, hopefully, finally, ready for bed.
I live about 16 doors down the road from mum. She has late onset dementia and is 92. She has always been opinionated, active and impatient but since dementia crept up on her about 5 years ago she has become dependent on me to keep her living in her home as she is terrified of going into a care home. She has been at the stage for the past year that she wouldn’t be able to stay in her house if I didn’t live so close by. However...mum still thinks she does all the housework, shopping, washing and cooking even though she doesn’t now do any of these things. Her short term memory is very poor and she has not been out of the house since last December. She has had a Care assessment and I have made tentative enquiries into respite care, just so I can properly clean her house and also have a break. Her GP has asked for an urgent mental capacity assessment that should happen this week.
So I was moving towards some extra support when today mum announced that she wasn’t living in her house and she wanted to get the train home! She also wanted to know where my dad was and he died in 1989. It’s the first time that she’s been this confused. The upshot is that I’m now sitting in her living room in the small hours having finally got her into bed. I will ring the doctor in the morning and see what happens next. I can’t stay with her every night. My OH starts four weeks of radiotherapy on Thursday and I’d like to be with him more than I can be.
its tough isn’t it? And I’m tired.
And now it’s 2.20am and I’m at mum’s, waiting for her to emerge from the loo, hopefully, finally, ready for bed.
I live about 16 doors down the road from mum. She has late onset dementia and is 92. She has always been opinionated, active and impatient but since dementia crept up on her about 5 years ago she has become dependent on me to keep her living in her home as she is terrified of going into a care home. She has been at the stage for the past year that she wouldn’t be able to stay in her house if I didn’t live so close by. However...mum still thinks she does all the housework, shopping, washing and cooking even though she doesn’t now do any of these things. Her short term memory is very poor and she has not been out of the house since last December. She has had a Care assessment and I have made tentative enquiries into respite care, just so I can properly clean her house and also have a break. Her GP has asked for an urgent mental capacity assessment that should happen this week.
So I was moving towards some extra support when today mum announced that she wasn’t living in her house and she wanted to get the train home! She also wanted to know where my dad was and he died in 1989. It’s the first time that she’s been this confused. The upshot is that I’m now sitting in her living room in the small hours having finally got her into bed. I will ring the doctor in the morning and see what happens next. I can’t stay with her every night. My OH starts four weeks of radiotherapy on Thursday and I’d like to be with him more than I can be.
its tough isn’t it? And I’m tired.