Hi Noaksie
Welcome to tp.
I sent an e-mail to my M's doctor detailing her symptoms and behaviours.
I put that I thought it could be depression or dementia or both and please could the doctor do blood tests (to rule out vitamin B deficiency?) and a mini mental state test.
The plan was to take my Mum to the doctors, however this part of the plan mis-fired!! as my M got very distressed by us suggesting it might be a good idea to pop and see him - so I had to cancel the appointment I'd made.
However, we were very lucky as the Doctor's surgery called my M in for a blood test and an appointment after I returned home!!!
She went and then got referred to memory clinic.
I also mentioned in the e-mail that we were concerned about her ability to care for herself in her home and that we'd need advice in the future. However, a social worker visited my m's home to talk about the Memory clinic appointment and I'm quite sure she cast an eye over the house as she offered a cleaner
Unfortunately my M refused
This may be of help to you, although my M isn't under NHS, I'm positive e-mail/letter is a really good idea because even if you don't get to the doctors they have it on record. When my M went to the Memory clinic they had copies of e-mails I had sent.
Good luck
Meercat