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Ideas for Wedding Anniversary

Discussion in 'I care for a person with dementia' started by NoodleDoodle, Jul 9, 2015.

  1. NoodleDoodle

    NoodleDoodle Registered User

    Mar 16, 2015
    9
    Lincolnshire
    Hi all
    My Mum has had Alzheimer's for about 6 years and has been in a nursing home for 18 months after being cared at home by my Dad.
    My Mum is 74, is in a wheelchair, she talks but we cannot understand most of it, she can't see/focus properly on books etc, she cannot feed/drink for herself.

    It is their 48th wedding anniversary soon and my Dad has asked me to try and think of ideas for a present and/or something we can do to celebrate.
    Does anyone have any ideas re a present for her, she doesn't react to much to anything you give her so it's really hard to think of something.
    Thank you, Sarah x
     
  2. Il Gufo

    Il Gufo Registered User

    Feb 27, 2013
    203
    Gift idea

    Hi, how sweet that your Dad is still putting some thought into their anniversary, even though your Mum may not appreciate it. How about a lovely, pretty blanket or throw to go on her lap when she is in her wheelchair? It could be used at the foot of her bed to brighten her room when not on her lap. Happy anniversary to them both, although I am sure the day is bittersweet for your Dad. Theirs is the true demonstration of "In sickness and in health".
     
  3. NoodleDoodle

    NoodleDoodle Registered User

    Mar 16, 2015
    9
    Lincolnshire
    Thank you, what a lovely idea, I shall pass that on to Dad :)

    Yes it is so lovely that he still wants to do so much for her, he travels a round trip of 60 miles every single day to see her and he will be 79 in December. I think it is his visits that keeps her going.

    Thank you for your wishes too, much appreciated.
     
  4. BeckyJan

    BeckyJan Registered User

    Nov 28, 2005
    18,972
    Derbyshire
    Have you time to gather together some photos of their lives together and put them in a suitable album? Then your Dad could go through them with her at any time she is up for looking at the pictures. Also if she is eating reasonably well would the Care Home put on a table for two so they could have lunch together?

    How wonderful of your Dad to want this - he needs special treatment too on their anniversary :).
     
  5. NoodleDoodle

    NoodleDoodle Registered User

    Mar 16, 2015
    9
    Lincolnshire
    Thank you for responding.

    I'm afraid Mum can't see very well and cannot focus on small things.

    She already has lots of big photos on her wall of family etc and they have lunch together every day as Dad likes to feed her.

    It's not easy thinking of things!
     
  6. Long-Suffering

    Long-Suffering Registered User

    Jul 6, 2015
    426
    I also think a nice, soft, colourful blanket would be great.

    LS
     
  7. CeliaW

    CeliaW Registered User

    Jan 29, 2009
    5,655
    Hampshire
    Does she still enjoy music? Maybe someone could help your Dad to put together a CD of songs from their younger days or ones that have special memories.
     
  8. jimbo 111

    jimbo 111 Registered User

    Jan 23, 2009
    5,082
    North Bucks
    hello Sarah
    I don,t think this necessarily what you want as a present
    but when my late wife was in the later stàges of AD we used to spend many hours
    on Google Street view looking at views of our old home district and you can take a virtual walk and view so many houses shops etc that back memories(so far as she could remember)of our previous
    life ,pre AD not only the views but many occasions that were prompted by the virtual walk
    best wishes
    jimbo
     
  9. canary

    canary Registered User

    Feb 25, 2014
    10,548
    Female
    South coast
    A friend of mine has a cat cushion. It is made from fur fabric and had a paw at each corner, a head at one end and a tail at the other. If you put it on your lap it is just like having a big cat lying on your lap and you find you want to stroke it. :)
     
  10. Mother goose

    Mother goose Registered User

    Jul 5, 2012
    247
    Co.Sligo, Ireland
    Hi Sarah,
    That's lovely that your Dad wants to celebrate their anniversary. If the N/H have a room for functions, could you organise a family celebration there? Then your Mum would be in her comfort zone & it wouldn't be as stressful as taking her out.

    My son got married last month & my Mum wasn't able to go. He & his new wife & her Mum & Dad are hoping to come over to us in Ireland in Sept, so he can get to see his Nan. My Mum's N/H have a separate function room, where families can get together.
    I am hoping to do that for my Mum in Sept & get the rest of the family there too.
     
  11. Quilty

    Quilty Registered User

    Aug 28, 2014
    1,056
    GLASGOW
    You could play "their song" and get one of their wedding photos enlarged. Music reaches different parts of the brain to sight. Hope you have a lovely day.
     

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